My "shadow" Dad

The best love parents can give their children is companionship.Contemporary parents are faced with the environment of high cost and high pressure in life,and the problem of insufficient time for parent-child companionship is increasingly prominent.The popular debate show "ba bi shuo" even asked,"should I cancel my father's title if he doesn't have enough company?" This topic,although the topic looks ridiculous and funny,but behind the topic is the perspective of the undeniable fact--"absence of father" phenomenon caused by the conflict is increasingly obvious,"lack of love syndrome" in children quietly spread.At present,the phenomenon of "children's aphasia" is very serious in the society.If we want to explore the quality of father's company,"squatting down to see the world with children's eyes" is the most important.Based on this,this study tries to suspend the adult perspective,call for 100 languages of children,and explore the father's company from the perspective of children.This research takes Harbin city S 30 children with a large garden as the research object,through collecting Mosaic method multi-angle perspective of children's father with relevant material,and then transcribes original material for the word document import NVivo11 qualitative analysis software,through free nodes,tree nodes and the establishment of the core category,it is concluded that children perspective a father of six dimensions: dad "hobby",company behavior,the company look forward to,with time,accompany the be fond of,and with state.After that,three prominent problems presented by the research results were deeply analyzed,namely,"what children care about","what children identify with" and "what is missing in the father's company".Then,the researcher called on fathers to pay attention to the process and provide children with the company they need.Based on the reality,increase the recognition of the company;Make up your weaknesses and pay attention to the missing points of company.By focusing on the perspective of children in the company of fathers,we aim to listen to the "voice" of children,strengthen the educational concept of "child-oriented",and respect children's right of expression,so as to provide feasible Suggestions forfathers to improve their accompanying behavior and quality.