Partner Regulation And Acceptance Based On Ideal Standard And Their Effect On Relationship Satisfaction

Fletcher opposed the standard of ideal partner in 1999, and then, a series of studies explore the function and effect of ideal partner standard in intimate relationship. When the consistency of partner ideal-perception is lower, the individuals would take some cognitive strategies, such as taking positive illusion to the partner or reducing his or her ideal standard. Overall thinks that regulating your partner is the effective way, and then to change his or her disadvantage, increase the consistency. But partner regulation negativly influence the individuals and relationship satisfaction in his study. He concluded partners lack acceptance when they communicate. In current study, we examined partner regulation in Chinese cultural background first, and then explored partner acceptance when the consistency of partner ideal-perception is lower.There are two studies. We examined partner regulation's actor effect and partner effect in study la and study 1b. And then, we focused on the effect of partner acceptance on the individuals and relationship satisfaction, including partner acceptance's partner effect on individual's self partner ideal-perception consistency, inferred partner ideal-perception consistency and self regulation; the effect of perceived partner regulation on self evaluation and relationship satisfaction.There are 446 couples from Chongqing, Shandong, Henna, Anhui and Yunnan. We explored the effect of partner regulation and partner acceptance on self evaluations and relationship satisfaction, the findings are as followings:(1) In study 1 and 2, the difference of relationship status (dating partner and marital partner) are significant in the consistency of ideal partner-perception, dating partner are more consistent than marital partner. There is positive illusion effect in dating partner.(2) Partner regulation is significantly and negatively associated with IPC on the dimension of warmth-trust, and regulation success is the moderate variable of them.(3) The partner effect of partner regulation is significant, the partner regulation is more, the individual's self partner ideal-perception consistency is lower, and the self regulation increased. The perception of partner regulation has the same effect.(4) Partner regulation and perceived partner regulation all negatively influence relationship satisfaction, and IPC, inferred IPC are mediated variable.(5) The partner effect of partner acceptance is significant, the partner acceptance is more, the partner's self partner ideal-perception consistency is more, but the self regulation is not siginificantly associated with partner acceptance.(6) Perceived partner acceptance is more, the individual's self partner ideal-perception consistency and inferred IPC is more, the self regulation increased on the dimension of warmth-trust.(7) Partner acceptance and perceived partner acceptance all positively influenced the relationship satisfaction.