Emotional Pursuit Of Love:a Narrative Study Of Parent-child Relationship Experience Of Middle School Students Left-behind In Rural Areas

The parent-child relationship is an important interpersonal relationship in the growth process of left-behind children,as well as an important part of family education,which has an irreplaceable impact on the individual development of left-behind children.As one of the subjects in parent-child relationship,left-behind children experience their own unique parent-child relationship and have their own personal feelings.Therefore,it is necessary to start from the perspective of left-behind children,hear their voice about parent-child relationship,and promote the improvement of rural family education based on this,to promote the happy growth of left-behind children.Based on this,this paper introduces the perspective of children into the study of parent-child relationship of left-behind children in rural areas,and adopts methods that can reflect the perspective of children,such as interviews and physical analysis,to explore the parent-child relationship in the eyes of left-behind children.According to the narration of three left-behind children in rural areas,this paper records their real-life parent-child relationship patterns and presents parent-child relationship events.Among them,T’s parent-child relationship experience is "half-bitter and half-sweet",J’s parent-child relationship experience is "from close to sparse",L’s parent-child relationship experience is "democracy and love".And analyzes the causes of parent-child relationship in the eyes of left-behind children.Among them.T thinks that the reasons for the parent-child relationship are unequal parent-child status,big difference in parent-child concept and parental stereotype.J thinks that the reasons for the parent-child relationship are the distance between time and space,the disharmonious relationship within the family,and the weak awareness of the role of parenting.L thinks that the reasons for the parent-child relationship are strong parental role demonstration,good family atmosphere and strong self-initiative.Through comparative analysis of the parent-child relationship experience of the three rural left-behind children,it is found that the essence of their parent-child relationship experience is the emotional pursuit of love.Summarizing the parent-child relationship of left-behind children in rural areas,the following conclusions are drawn: the emotional pursuit of love is the practical experience of left-behind children;Left-behind children’s emotional pursuit of love is specific;Left-behind children pursue love for a happy life.The introduction of children’s perspective into the study of parent-child relationship of rural left-behind children is essentially a call for the concept of children and family education.Therefore,Parents of left-behind children should change the traditional concept of parent-child relationship and use external resources to learn parent-child communication.Left-behind children should learn to exert their initiative and seek help from others.Schools should integrate parent-child relationship into campus culture and give full play to the positive power of head teachers.