The Evolution Of Marital Emotion Of Young Chinese Citizens After Carrying Out Reform And Open Policy

Reform and open is the times which society change violently and concepts for people renew day by day. In the changeful and developmental times, people's marital emotion life change enormously。The youth is the sharpest range pole that era change and develop, while the city is the place where culture blend and concept collide fiercestly . Knowing about the evolution of the marital emotion about city youth, can not only see the process of Chinese reform and open, but also comb and clear the orbits of marital emotion development. Emotion is a kind of special experience in the human spiritual life, and a kind of complicated psychological phenomena. Different discipline domains have different explanation. The article determined the emotion as: Emotion means that in the course of perceiving the things and phenomenon of social actual life, people produce a kind of one's own experience and psychological experience according to one's own spiritual demand and the degree of life value reflect,. Marriage is a kind of sexual social connection that women and men regarded living together as object, and regarded right and obligation each other as content. Marital emotion need from the individual and society two aspects to explain . As for individual, marital emotion means that in the course of perceiving marriage, when couple obtain spiritual meet and value reflect each other, couple produce a kind of psychological experience. It emphasizes that couple individual inner experiences in the marriage. As for society, marital emotion means that under the realistic social environment the whole of social masses form a kind of group consciousness in the course of perceiving marriage. Because of the study on marital emotion in terms of social changes, it is social marital emotion in the article. Reform and open bring great social changes, and bring revolutionary changes to numbers of families. The implementation of each reform policy, bring huge vibrations to family life, as the youth's emotion life. In order to review clearly the course of youth marital emotion and know about their emotion behavior in different periods since reform and open, the author has made phased division to the marital emotion life of 26 years. The division at stage is mainly according to youth's emotional characteristics in different reform period. The first stage is the times that the emotion recovers, corresponding time is from 1978 to 1985, on the occasion of initial stage of reform. Main behavior that the youth marital emotion: The subject consciousness of the marital emotion life is strengthened, emotional orientation that young men and women yearned for love, simple and implicit emotional expression, marital emotion choice falls into the hazy predicament that traditional ethics fetter and modern love pursue, Personal emotional experience attach to national construction and patriotic emotion experience. Produce the reason of these changes: Mind emancipation offer the precondition for youth breaking through traditional mind and pursuing emotional life; The modification of " marriage law " created the terms for marital life that the youth pursued " regarding emotional factor as the tie "; After the " big unification " values of the Cultural Revolution collapse ," value no-man's-land " appearing make youth fall into the hazy predicament on the life value orientation and marital value orientation; The infiltration of outside culture open the emotional door of confining people for a long time. The second stage is complicated and confusing emotional times, corresponding time is from 1986 to 1993, reform is in the hiccup period. Main behavior that the youth marital emotion: Emotional experience of youth go through changes from " one fire of winter " to " follow feeling ", The satisfaction of the youth's emotion demand go through changes from "emotional materialization " to " nostalgic emotion involution ", The stability degree of the marital emotion go through changes from stability to dispersiveness, Wife's emotion go through changes from " encourage husband go abroad and plunge into the commercial sea " to " sense of loss at home", Husband's emotion go through changes from " fight for market " to " communication of love ". Produce the reason of these changes: Emotional orientation yeaning for love in emotional recovery times is contrary to emotional materialization in current society, which cause the young marital emotion fall into the hazy predicament; The division of social interests make people discontent, cause the youth to recollect past , wish eagerly collectivism nostalgic emotion; The excessive pursuit of the material demand, cause the shortage of spiritual demand, and the crisis of the marital emotion. The third stage is lax and pluralistic emotional times , corresponding time is from 1994 to 2004, the reform is in the steady development period. Main behavior that the youth marital emotion: Youth's standard of choosing spouse tend to practicalization and totalization, the way of choosing spouse tend to independence and pluralism, Youth's emotion behavior tend to utility, advancement and carnality, the emotional choices tend to fuzziness; Youth's emotional expression is open and bold, and tends to network and communication; Modish emotion modes of couple appear, such as Dink family, weekend couple, Sexual enjoy consciousness and orgasm consciousness of couple is improving;The divorce rate and extramarital behavior is increasing;Produce the reason of these changes: Overall impact of market economy;The social division and flows bring with the deep influence;Influence of mass media and mass culture;Impact of the technological double-edged sword; Influence of youth's one's own marriage psychological factor。In the course of reform and open, Youth's marital emotion changes develop towards positive and progressive direction. The individual consciousness is strengthened in the marital emotion life, The sexual idea in the marriage is open day by day,The independent and equal consultations consciousness in the marriage are strengthened, The consciousness of spiritual demand and psychological need in the marriage are strengthened,The way of choosing spouse tend to diversification。But expose some questions:In the emotional choice, strengthen individual character and freedom, weaken responsibility and obligation;In the emotional pursuit, highlight body desires and action result, desalinize spiritual communication and the course of experience; On the emotional behavior, pay attention to the thought that the high-quality emotional meets , ignore the cultivation that the ability of emotional adjustment。Hidden some crises:While the youth obtains freedom of choosing emotion, the risk on the emotional betrayal is increasing; The way of new-type network emotional supports, shift and weaken the support chain of couple's emotion in realistic life, While the youth pursue love regarding indulgence and feeling as purpose, martial puzzle is increasing. On the occasion of our country structuring the socialistic harmonious society, marriage as sexual social connection, family as social basic cell, their harmony and stability not only promotethe society steady and development in order, but also build up a full of emotions and friendly harmonious society. During the evolution of marital emotion, it exposed some questions and hidden crisis in the marriage , and appeared inharmonious phenomenon in the marriage, which need to build and construct the harmonious marital emotion, and promote the development of the marriage harmoniously and steadily and continuously. Building and constructing the harmonious marital emotion, the main way is as follows: Train before marriage;Reinvent the responsibility consciousness of the marriage;Set up the benign communicational mechanism among couple; Strengthen the ability of marital adjustment.