Study On Interpersonal Trust In Communication Of Marriage And Love At Matchmaking Corner

In the current society,being in a relationship and getting married have become a life problem for young people,and the single population is increasing year by year.The traditional blind date has returned to modern life and become a way of life for modern people.Faced with the pressure of marriage,parents are more anxious than their children.Nowadays,there are many matchmaking corners in large cities,mostly in parks,squares and other public spaces,which ease the anxiety for people who have problem in getting married.Matchmaking corner in major cities are popular,most of which are parents.The matchmaking corner is full of people,the success rate is generally low although it is popular.About this problem,most of the existing research analyze it from the sociological perspective.However,this article will start form the specific situation when people meet for the first time in the matchmaking corners,use the qualitative research method to present the whole process of communication,explore the construction mechanism,development process and influencing factors of interpersonal trust,and analyze the specific reasons for the low success rate of blind date from the perspective of interpersonal interaction.The whole process of blind date is roughly divided into the following steps: parents find potential mates for their children and keep their contact information,blind date participants communicate online,and blind date participants meet offline.The interpersonal trust in the communication of marriage is a product under the combined effect of multiple trust mechanisms.The subject trust mechanism includes individual trust tendency and relative vulnerability,and the object trust mechanism includes credibility and impression management.The development of interpersonal trust is a dynamic process,and the revision of trust decisions runs through the entire interaction process,changing all the time: strengthening,weakening,or interrupting.At the matchmaking corner,parents only perform rough screening and leave the more detailed assessment process to their children.In the process of information accumulation,verbal signs and non-verbal signs testify to each other,and jointly determine the direction of trust relationship.The influencing factors of interpersonal trust construction will be analyzed from three aspects: situational factors,human factors,and media factors.Among them,it is found from the research that Chinese people are very sensitive about their reputation.They often present a harmonious scene in the communication of marriage and love,although the content of the conversation involves a lot of privacy.People not only manage their impression,taking actions to show their characteristics to gain the trust of the other party,but also protect the other people’s reputation,and adopt an attitude of admiration and flattery in the process of communication.Faced with topics that may damage the reputation of the other,they may choose a indirect method to obtain information,adopt a more tactful way of asking questions,or check and verify in person later,etc.In the process of marriage and love communication,the establishment of initial trust between people determines whether parents will pass information to their children,and the establishment of trust between young children when they meet determines whether there will be further development,such as the establishment of emotional dependence or even marriage.Therefore,this study not only supplements the theory of interpersonal trust,but also analyzes the dating corner and the whole process of dating from the perspective of communication.In addition,from the perspective of practical significance,the research results of this paper are useful for blind date,love and marriage,mate selection and other related issues.