| In the process of personal growth,it is necessary to establish various relationships,among which close relationships play an important role.The attachment relationship is established by attachment link,which aims to ensure the social security and emotional needs.However,the attachment between individuals and attachment figure does not maintain a static relationship.With the development of the life process,there is the possibility of changes in association with the more investment of attachment figure and the reestablishment of attachment relationships.The lonely parent can only maintain the attachment and the commemoration of the child in one direction in the moment of losing the only child.At this time,the emotional connection between the loss of single parents and the lost child changes from two-way to one-way.With time pass by,because of the uniqueness of the only child and the accidental of the death,the loss of single parents gradually have three periods of psychological features:psychological disorder,psychological alienation and psychological closure.During this period of time,the lonely parents will actively solidify their one-way connection with their lost child.After the peace of mind of the parents who lost their child,There are two results:part of the parents cannot be relieved and cannot return to normal life because of their bereavement and there is a lack of alternative attachment objects.The other part of the loss-individual parents,although the wound healing cannot be cured,they can return to normal life by relying on spouse or adopting children,establishing relations with parents who have the same experience,which can help themselves partially transform the one-way attachment bond with the bereaved child.In summary,Loss of single Parents largely follows the following path of change:In the context of psychological trauma resulting from a traumatic event,the attachment experience of the lonely parent’s attachment to the attachment object is from a two-way connection to a one-way connection,the one-way connection is solidified,and one-way links are partially transformed.This connection change is influenced by the withdrawal of attachment objects and the intimacy of the substitute and attachment objects,what influence the attachment connection are the degree of social context tolerance and openness,intimacy with alternatives.Attached to the internal working model and the role of the security base,this change’s path has three characteristicsit is often accompanied by the individual’s psychological changes;the direction of change is not unique,there is a difference in time and degree;the connection will not disappear but will continue to exist with the change. |
