A Study On Coping Strategies For Lovelorn Of Female College Students

Female college students are in a stage of early adulthood. To establish intimate relationship and learn to love and be loved are the most important tasks for the full personality development. But not all of them can establish good intimate relationship. The lovelorn phenomenon, especially the negative psychological state and the immature coping strategies taken after their lovelorn, may lead to many negative consequences, which influences their values on love and their personality development. Among them, some even can not establish intimate relationship. This research investigates the female college students, especially those who with lovelorn experiences. The study explores the attitude and the coping strategies for lovelorn in current female college students. With in-depth qualitative interview, detailed individualized coping strategies for lovelorn were gathered in this research.This paper is divided into two parts:The first part is a questionnaire survey. With the questionnaire of the coping strategies for lovelorn of the undergraduates, 500 female college students from Shijiazhuang’s three universities were surveyed to investigate the current situation of their coping strategies for lovelorn. The results show that: On the whole, in coping strategies dimensions, the average scores from the highest to the lowest are cognition rebuilding, assaulting behavior, emotional catharsis, searching substitution, indulging, avoidance; There are significant differences lovelorn coping strategies in major, grade, in-love-state, lovelorn mode, lovelorn times, lovelorn of the last time.The second part is qualitative interview study. Two female students who had lovelorn experience were interviewed, to understand their attitudes towards lovelorn and the detailed individualized coping strategies, so as to analyze their deep-seated cognitive feeling and value judgment after lovelorn. The results show that lovelorn mode will affect the regulating coping strategies of cognition, emotion and behavior; Those who take initiative in lovelorn have more positive coping strategies than those who take passive style in lovelorn; The misery of lovelorn will decrease as time goes by, and there is a critical coping period after lovelorn; Lovelorn leads to a personal growth, and it will have effects on the value of love and marriage, and also impact their personality development.Through the research, the conclusions are following:(1)The female college students take priorities with positive in coping strategies.(2)There are major differences in coping strategies, with students in science taking more negative coping strategies while students in liberal arts taking more positive coping strategies.(3) There are grade differences in coping strategies, with Grade Three taking more positive and mature coping strategies than the other grades.(4)Those who take initiative in lovelorn will choose more positive coping strategies than those take passive attitude in lovelorn.(5)There is a critical coping period in lovelorn coping strategies.