The Game Of Two Families By Marriage Under Ancestors’ Shadow And Meaning-making:an Anthropolical Research On "Buzhaobujia"Marriage Form Of Bai People In DaLi

The change of society and the change of family and marriage interact. The appearance of "Buzhaobujia" form in Bai region of Dali because of traditional marriage form face modern social dilemma. In traditional Bai society, ancestor worship already embedded in their everyday life, and it became a belief system and practice system. As society developing, the balance of traditional marriage form has problem. Ancestor worship which is based on offspring has continuity issues in modern society. In this circumstance,"Buzhaobujia" appeared.The forming of Buzhaobujia" has a long time, games are in all process. Two people in marriage and families are main part of game. The process of game is not only conflict and bread-in between traditional marriage form and "Buzhaobujia", but also the game and negotiation between tradition and modern. During this process, subjective initiative of people is important.Recently,"Buzhaobujia" already became a common custom and rules of Bai society. In wedding, Bai people emphasized "taking care of parents from two families", which result in living in two families; double identities; raising two-side families and some other problems. Among these problems, choice of family name is crucial problem when two families game. The two families want the kid follow their own family name, in order to live under protection of ancestor. Francis L. K. Hsu said traditional ancestor is praline, which protect praline family,"BuZhaoBuJia" try to realize offspring needs of both families. The marline and praline can be both protected under ancestor."BuZhaoBuJia" change female status which used belong to male. Identity belonging is crucial for status changing in marriage. Female join family offspring because of BuZhaoBuJia", and subject and independent consciousness play a role during this process. From live with husband family to live in both families; from praline to male yielding,in some words,"BuZhaoBuJia" shakes traditional dominant family and social structure of Bai, even whole China. And far-away living experience make traditional lineal social structure which bound up by blood relationship and geographical cannot be continued. Sometimes,"BuZhaoBuJia" will result in divorces because of dispute about family name choice. According to forming process of "BuZhaoBuJia", we can understand the change of traditional Bai marriage in modern society, but the form and content changing still cannot get rid of ancestor worship of Bai people. On contrary, human being will do change and adapt to new situations when they face difficulty of ancestor continuity. Traditional ancestor concept runs deep in human being’s conception and practice.