Absence And Supplement Of Love

The family is the cradle of life,parents are the teacher of children's enlightenment,and they are the lifelong teacher.Family education is the carrier of connecting school education and social education,reasonable family education provided the conditions of human development,and it plays a crucial role in children's emotions,habits,and the training of many kinds of ability.However,the problem of left-behind children is essentially the absence of family education,parents and children separated for a long time,they lack the family affection and effective supervision,thus it is particularly important to study the family parenting pattern of left-behind children.This research is based on previous studies.The rural left-behind children small A 's family parenting pattern is regard as a text object,with care theory,interaction theory,the person's full scale development theory and other related theories to interpret reasonable family parenting pattern of left-behind children.Depending on qualitative research methods from two dimensions of my family education story and the “I” in my eyes and others.By observing the real family education of rural sole custody left-behind children and found that: an incomplete family structure of mother' absence lead to the desire for mother love and the lack of security;since by modern technical rationality,the old concept of knowledge and "knowledge-power" relationship's affecting,the father in the autocratic family lifestyle led to the loss of small A's voice under the "authority" of family power unreasonable operation;the concept of family education about the autonomy enrollment system led to the wrong way to choose friends,and hindered the overall development of small A;in addition,the neglected and ineffective home-school cooperation in the school education has lost the external support for the family education of small A.The family is the important source of the warmth of life,and the absence of the mother has led to the lack of an executor in small A' family education.We should realize that we have no way to solve the problem of parents' absence of left-behind children,we can only try to bring warm to them.we should provide reflection and suggestions to them on the implementation of the absence of their parents.Therefore,we should propose targeted suggestions on the problems existing in the parenting style of left-behind children from the perspective of education administrative department,community,school and family,so as to make up for the problem of family education brought by the absence of mother.