The Qualitative Research Of The Psychological Growth Of Five Lovelorn Male Graduate Students

The study focus on the psychological changes and growth of lovelorn male graduate students. Based on a qualitative grounding theory, this study selected five male graduate students as the objectives. Through a year-long follow-up study with in-depth interviews and field observations using other methods, this study got a deep insight into the lives of their breakup, collected a lot of first-hand information, comprehensively presented the process of the psychological changes and growth of male graduate students after they break up with their lover from the perspective of positive psychology. Coding of original materials is conducted by open coding?axis coding and selective coding to summarize relevant core concepts and theses, and finally these concepts are linked and inducted to form a certain “substantive theory”.The study found that the process of the psychological changes and growth of lovelorn male graduate students can be divided into three stages:(1) Initial psychological growth(self-drifting phase),of which the time lasts from break-up to three months later, the main conclusion is that the early stage of physical and mental state of male graduates including emotional, physical, behavioral and cognitive reactions, the physical and mental state of this stage is the basic of later psychological growth;(2) conformation of psychological growth(adjustment period), the time lasts relatively long, almost run through the lovelorn, the course of this study lasted a year, the psychological growth at this stage has been developing and changing all the time. The performance of mental growth after a breakup includes the transformation from a negative and passive coping style to a positive and proactive response pattern, and then achieve the positive psychological level.(3) continuation psychological growth period(again off period), the time course is ofa year or so after the breakup, the main content is the performance of male masters' getting psychological growth after birth lovelorn, which is divided into four levels: the first is the improvement of individual strength, the second is the change of interpersonal attitudes, the third is the growth of value of marriage, the fourth is the improvement of the meaning of life.The main means of getting psychological growth consists of two aspects: inner self-regulation and internal and external grooming. Internal regulator includes cognitive factors, capacity factors and personality factors; external grooming mainly refers to social support system from three sources, namely support from peers and friends, family members and college-related personnel.The results show: Male Master not only gain negative mood and physical reactions after birth romance, but also can get positive psychological force---with their body and mind restored, new meaning of life constructed, they get psychological growth, which reflects the positive psychology's theory.