And Loneliness Counterparts - Explore Loneliness Personal Growth

This is an article which uses the action research method, take the author as the object of study, the self-exploration class research the complex of loneliness which the author met in the development process and explain how the author to deal with it.The passing research basically uses the quantity research, the object of the study is the different crowd's loneliness and has drawn some comparison concise conclusions and suggestions. This research used an entirely different research technique the action research this electron particle materialization research as the research technique. In this paper, introduced the approximate process of the author explores the loneliness, this process lasted about two year, there were many places that the author can aftertaste, increased many life colors; summarized the fixed pattern which resource the author's lonely feeling forms, for example:fear of loneliness, like to get together; I am very easily impacted by the words of teachers and parents;afraid of the death or the leave of my family, when facing these patterns the author saw her imprisoned shackles clearly and build the foundation to break these patterns; she has discussed the reason of lonely feeling, mainly analyze the trauma of birth, the accumulation of life and the yoke of the culture, the analysis time was quite painful and it was the most difficulty part to carry on but at the same time found the reason made the author have more confidence to the following growth; and recommended some method which can accompany lonely feeling that the author summarized on the exploration path:recognize ourselves, accept the reality;forward freely; feeding the children in our hearts with love; existing on our own. hoping that these enigmatic method can help and inspire more people in future while helped author herself.In the article end, the author has rethought this research, saw the achievement this research has obtained and the insufficiency place that needs to continue improves.So from the whole passage, we can see this research has broken the former r research pattern to research lonely feeling, in the certain growth experience's foundation which has obtained, the author profound realizing that facing loneliness will not end because of this research, this will be a very long process, moreover the exploration will from the childhood wound to the existence stratification loneliness on the author body gradually.