The Influence Of Family Communication On College Students' Spouse Selection

Communication is the process that thoughts and feelings are conveyed and responded among people or between people and group, in order to make thoughts conformable and feelings clear. Family communication is the process that the information is exchanged and passed for each other in family. Family, as the basic unit of society, plays an important role in establishing connections between the individual and society. Healthy and sustainable development of the family not only is related to the healthy development of personal, but also the important cornerstone of national harmony and stability. Then, the healthy and harmonious of family is mainly reflected in the harmony communication between family members. In psychology research of adolescents, family communication mainly refers to the process of exchanging information, advice, opinions, attitudes and emotions so as to get a common understanding, trust and cooperation. Family communication is not only a necessary means of maintaining family harmony, but also one important way to implement family education. In a nuclear family, children can learn the basic talking skills by communicating with their parents. Meanwhile, the development of children’s personality factors, such as self-awareness, coping behavior, et al, is also affected by family communication. Therefore, a good family communication is greatly beneficial to harmony development of the family and healthy growth of children for family members, especially that of the children.If family is the cell of society, marriage would be the prerequisite for the family, and then the spouse-selection is the essential requirement of marriage. It is a vital for the college students who want to get married and raise a family to enjoy a very happy married life to choose what kind of spouse. And since the 1980s, along with the reform and opening-up and rapid economic development, the traditional old spouse way which is through depended on parents is far away from us, and the free love has become the main trend nowadays. Then, due to the characteristics of Chinese nuclear family, the "freedom" of choosing spouse is huge different from the other countries. The ties between parents and children in Chinese family have a fundamentally different from oversea countries. Chinese parents participate in everything about their children from the birth of a child, even though children have been adult or got married. Thus, nowadays the concept of parents has a great impact on the condition, standard and attitude about choosing spouse for unmarried young men and women.In order to clarify whether the family communication has an influence on choosing spouse for Korean college students and how they impact, the article used the questionnaires to make a survey for 186 Korean students of Z University of Beijing. The questionnaires are consisted of three parts, the first part understands the family communication situation and type of Korean college students by the Revised Family Communication Patterns (RFCP). The second section investigates the mate-selecting standard of Korean college students in the field of internal criteria by means of Likert Attitude Scale, single-choice and multiple-choice, and makes clear the attitude of mate selection criteria towards mate-selecting through investigation about marriageable age, spouse way, dating duration before marriage, parents’ opinion, objection and three major factors in choose a spouse. The third parts makes a statistics on the situation of demographic variables of Korean college students that include personal information, parents information, family structure, family separation and communication, which may affect family communication and mate selection. This can help to further clarify the influence of family communication to the mating.The article uses the software of SPSS 20 to analyse the survey results. Firstly, the credibility of questionnaire were examined by the factor analysis and reliability analysis, the result got a high reliability under the condition of removing abnormal data, with Cronbach’s α=0.826. Secondly, these methods were used to make a correlation analysis for all variables in study, including the one-way ANOVA, Chi-Square test, correlation analysis and non-parametric test. The main research results and contents were as follows:1. The score of conversation-orientation (M=3.77) is higher than conformity-orientation (M=2.99) in the dimension of family communication; and for the type of family communication, pluralistic-family took the highest percentage (46.8%), the second is deliberative-family (44.1%), laissez faire-family (5.9%) and protective-family (3.2%) were the least2. The score of conformity-orientation has obvious statistical differences in demographic variables (p<0.01), including student’s age, grade, birthplace, parents’ work place, family structure and separation. And it is also significant different for brother number, mother’s education and father’s occupation(p< 0.05). In addition, it has no significant difference in father’s education, family structure and communication frequency (p>0.05). The score of conversation-orientation has obvious statistical differences in demographic variables(p<0.01),including brother number, parents’ occupation, parents’ workplace, family structure, family separation and communication frequency. And the parents’ education and mother’s place of business also have statistical differences (p<0.05). Besides, it has no significant difference in age, grade, birthplace(p>0.05).3. The condition of choosing spouse for Korean college students have a higher requirement in interactional criteria (M=4.20) and internal criteria (M= 4.15), but have a lower requirement in external criteria (M=3.92) and homogeneity criteria (M=3.68). According to the level of requirement, the criteria can be ranked as respect (M=4.52), good communication (M=4.51), character (M=4.39), ambition (M=4.26) or potential (M=4.26), interpersonal (M=4.25), charm (M=4.21), health (M=4.21), independent (M=4.19), mature (M=4.18), life goals(M=4.15),humor (M=4.09), values (M=4.05), shortcomings complementary (M=4.03), expression skills (M=3.92) or career (M=3.92), family environment (M=3.87), financial capacity (M=3.81), interest (M=3.79), role exchange (M=3.77), education (M=3.74), appearance (M=3.60), age (M=3.34), birthplace (M=3.09). The approximately 47.8 percent of students selected 28-30 years old as the marriageable age about the attitude of mate selection, the 81.7 percent selected the natural meet as spouse way, the 53.8 percent selected 1-2 years as dating duration before marriage, the 63.4 percent selected considering the parents opinions and my idea as the option of parents’ opinion, the 45.7 percent selected persuading parents as the attitude to parents’ objection, and it is a obvious trend to selected personal character (25.1%), realistic factor (22.1%)and parental expectations (19.0%) as three major factors in choose a spouse and account for a higher proportion for all options.4. The condition of choosing spouse for Korean college students has significant statistical differences in demographic variables, including the student’s grade, birthplace, parents’ age and family structure (p<0.01), and has statistical differences in gender, age, father’s occupation and family separation (p<0.05). Among attitude of Mate selection, the age and grade belonged to option of choosing methods, the grade, family separation and communication frequency belonged to option of parents’ opinion and the age, grade, mother’s workplace and family structure belonged to option of parents’ objection have significant statistical differences (p<0.01), then the dating duration before marriage and parents’ opinion belonged to family structure, the father’ workplace and communication frequency with mother belonged to parents’ objection have statistical differences (p<0.05).5. The conversation-orientation has positive correlation with personal criteria (r=0.528, p<0.01) and mutual criteria (r=0.391, p<0.01); In other words, the higher the conversation-orientation scores, the higher the requirements are for their spouse in various aspects. The conformity-orientation has no correlation with mating criteria (p>0.05).6. The conformity-orientation has significant correlation with spouse attitudes, including the spouse way, parents’ opinion and parents’ objection(p< 0.01), and has a correlation with the dating duration before marriage (p< 0.05). But it has no correlation with marriageable age (p>0.05). The conversation-orientation has no significant difference in mate selection attitude.7. The level of conversation-orientation mainly affects the criteria of mate selection, mainly involving the high requirement, comprehensive assessment, pragmatism and caution. The conformity-orientation mainly impacts on the attitude of mate selection, mainly involving that the parents and friend could participate or intervene in the mating, and accept or adopt the idea from them.