Good Friends In The Kindergarten

Circle of friends is an important social situation in the development of children,young children build peer culture among them,peer culture includes a series of relatively stable daily activities,self-created activities,values and thoughts that are generated and shared during peer interactions and include the intrinsic psychological characteristics and external behaviors in the course of interactive behaviors,it interacts with children's social development and climbs.In this study,observation and interview were the main research methods,the interactive behaviors and frequency of peer interaction were recorded.In conjunction with the tool NodeXL,draw the class social network,divided children's circle of friends,Restore the pathways of generation and maintenance of good friends,and the reasons for their estrangement and the performance for their dissociation were restored.At the same time,restored the dynamic process of children's friendship in peer interaction,in order to sort out the repeated preschoolers' s circle of friends peer culture and its characteristics.The explicit peer culture from the maintenance of a good friends to estrangement are:Reciprocal sharing,joyful taboos and excitement,the adulation of "reciprocity",conformity psychological,social humor of children show by telling jokes and riddles,gray nursery rhymes and sing gray nursery rhymes.Aiming at the situation of the peer culture which is not directly present in each path and reason,the author again analyzed the case and interview record,in the discussion section to make a collation,content includes:More prone to conflict and more proactive conflict resolution,internal sharedpsychological characteristics of members of the circle of friends during their interaction,curiosity,conformity psychological,a desire to enter primary school,a mind that want to grow and fear losing.The values and thoughts of peer interaction in the children include:Adhere to true sharing and reject false modesty,do not like who does like lying and broken promises,thinking helpful toddlers are suitable as friends,like a cheerful young child,gray nursery rhymes are harmless.Gender differences will lead to differences in peer culture:The characteristics of friends get along with the circle is:men in groups,women in pairs;the differences between popular books,toys and animations,such as high structure toys,boys are more popular animation image of the car,ball modelling,Transformers and other toys in the circle of friends,girls like soft plush toys,simulation dolls with Barbie elements;The self-creation activities carried out by the circle of friends with more boys are mainly concentrated in games,which are competitive in nature,while the activities of girls are concentrated in conversation,and the main themes are focused on beauty and others;On the way of consolation,female friends are more likely to perceive and take care of each other's emotions,and enlighten others,male friends through the transfer,push,encouragement to eliminate the negative mentality of others,in order to achieve the comfort effect.In the way of estrangement,boys express the result of estrangement directly by their behavior,for girls,they are more likely to gather other children in the circle of friends to implicitly attack someone for the purpose of alienating the child.This study puts forward introspection:We should move away from the mechanistic approach to peer culture in young children and let it go with respect so that young children do not rely on our minds to build their own peer culture;Do not judge the children in the construction of friends circle show the companion culture is good or bad,keep in mind a principle:body language is more important than words education,self-construction is to help children identify peer culture.