| This research explored the experience of long-distance romantic relationships (LDRRs) in their dynamic unfolding. Theoretical constructs of touch, mediated communication, reciprocity, and idealization were investigated. These constructs, as they relate specifically to LDRRs, were examined through the lens of an interpretative phenomenological analysis (IPA) to attain thick descriptions of rich and complex phenomena. Semi-structured interviews were conducted with 8 interview participants, ages ranging from 22-29. Placed within the theoretical framework of the Social Exchange Theory, this study attempted to determine how distance impacts communication processes within a relationship, and how these processes influence the maintenance strategies that shape relationship satisfaction. The findings yielded a total of 16 themes under 5 broad categories: the experience of emotional disconnect, the dark side of distance, relational maintenance techniques, mediated communication and digital channels, and commitment processes and alternative partners. Salient themes of anger, shame, avoidance, uncertainty, hopelessness, idealization, misunderstandings, commitment, and the broad construal of alternative partners were all dominant issues that emerged from the interview data. Participants reported managing constraints as an individual and as a unit through mediated channels such as email, telephone, Skype, texting, and instant messaging. The importance of physical touch, reciprocity in effort, and idealization as a self-protective mechanism were explored in detail to determine the varying degree of satisfaction within a relationship. Overall, the results support the notion that digital mediums feel mechanical, do not impart the same emotional connection as face-to-face communication, and at times, may even hinder a relationship beyond repair. Furthermore, the impact of conflict avoidance, uncertainty, over-reliance on idealization, physical deprivation, and feelings of separateness that stem from negatively-valenced affects are unanimously documented at the root of relationship demise. Applications and areas for future research are also discussed. |
